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The Nature of Taboo

Merriam-Webster defines taboo as:

a : a prohibition imposed by social custom or as a protective measure
b : something that is not acceptable to say, mention, or do : something that is taboo

But have we ever considered why a taboo is so protective? What is it protective of?

And as I thought about it I realised a simple truth: many people don't have the emotional maturity to deal with certain subjects... death, sex, drugs, questioning the narrative... and taboos have come about to protect them from their discomfort.

Society has collectively decided what's too uncomfortable for people to hear or think and set up a system for avoiding the issue. Not getting in there and dealing with it, but actively avoiding it by discouraging us from talking about it.

And when we are not allowed to talk about something, we tend to stop thinking about it too. Don't ask too many questions.

This is not the way to solve the problems of the world.

There is nothing actually preventing the emotionally mature from speaking and having valuable conversations about those topics. (There is nothing preventing the emotionally immature either, only their fear or sense of duty).

Hopefully next time I find myself saying "I can't say that" or "we just don't talk about that" I will catch myself and speak the truth regardless.

#life #mindfulness

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